Wow. I did not realize just how long it has been since I last was blogging! SO much has changed! I now have two kids (Casey was born in September of 2007)we now live in a house in the South end of the city and I am now a stay at home mom. It has been an interesting adjustment but one that I wouldn't trade for the world!
Jay and I are still heading up Infuzion! We are slowly growing. What started out as three kids has now grown into on average six with more moving over soon. I am so amazed at the way that these kids think, how much they know and also how little they know. (and that can be a good thing!) If you look at everything out there in the world today it is all being aimed at 9-12 year olds. (age compression marketing) Some of this is good, but all too often some of it is bad! I watched this program on CBC that freaked me right out. They had a bunch of girls aged 9-12 (or tweens) on and had them pick out clothes that they liked from racks and racks. Some of the stuff that they picked was something that shouldn't even be worn by an adult let alone a tween. Pants so low that you could see underwear (on girls), shirts with "Sexy" and "Your boyfriend thinks I'm hot", low cut shirts showing off the padded push up bras (like you need one at that age!!!) etc. When asked about what they were wearing these girls stated that they liked it because it made boys notice them and they felt sexy. When asked what sexy meant none of them could tell the interviewer. These girls said they looked up to people like Lindsey Lohan, Britney Spears, Christina Aguilera (this program was pre-breakdown Britney and Lindsey) And the disturbing thing to me was that their parents didn't mind them dressing like that! I would have been killed if I dressed like they were. Not to mention that my parents would never have wasted there money on clothes like that in the first place! Being a mom of two kids I cannot understand how as a parent that you can let your kids dress like that. Or even act like I saw a kid the other day, mouthing off at his mom & dad. Again, if I did that (and I did) I would (and was) have been punished! There is no respect whatsoever in this generation. Parents think that it is better to be their kids best friend then to actually be their parents!! I was watching a Dr. Phil episode where he was discussing teenagers and sex. There was a mom on there who thought it was acceptable to take her 14 year old daughter to the doctor, have her put on birth control because the boyfriend (who was I believe like 16 or 17) had proven himself as someone who was sticking around so when they came to her and stated that they wanted to have sex she felt that this was the responsible thing to do. Dr. Phil questioned why she would think that, why she just didn't say no and the mother's response was that it was better for her to know what was going on and have her daughter trust her than to sat no! They then talked to a doctor who studies the brain and he made an interesting point. There aparhently is this study that states that once the brain enters puberty it is going through another stage of development. This results in the kid not being able to comprehend the long term affects of their decisions. This caused quite the ensuing argument but I found this absolutly interesting. I can remember back to when I was a teenager and I can totally argee that I had no concept whatsoever of what my decisions would mean for me in the long term. I made some really stupid decisions and thought that they were the best decisions ever at the time. That's why I think that this whole thing distrubs me. You have all these tweens and teenagers being told to live their own lives, make their own decisions and they don't really have the mental capacity to do so. Take a look at any teen magazine these days. Seventeen when I was growning up was about make up, hair, prom dresses, fashion and a few quizzes. Now it's about how to be thin, how to get that boy to like you and are you ready for sex? And there are kids who eat that up and end up getting into big trouble. Guys are taught to treat girls like objects based on advertising, media, music. (I do not envy my boys at all what they will have to endure when they become teenagers and wish to remain pure) Girls are taught that you need to dress a certain way, act a certain way, sleep with a guy to keep him. What ever happened to just being a kid?!?! Leave the adult stuff for when your an adult! Just go out ride bikes and hang out with friends! Maybe I'll be viewed as lame and old fashion but I'd rather be my boys parent and have my kids be kids than be their friend and have them be all over the place doing bad things!
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